Sunday, March 22, 2009

无言的伤痛 A crying pain

It is a crying pain, a sad regret.

I just come back from a funeral parlour in PJ to pay my respect to a 27 year-old girl. Painfully, she died so young, regrettably, I was not able to see her when he was alive. It was a matter of today and yesterday.

yesterday, I received a call from Agnes in Kota Kinabalu, informing me that a daughter of a fellow Catholic in her parish was in coma after a brain surgery in University Hospital. The parents wished to see a priest. The girl was not baptised.

Requests from a dying person or from his/her members of family are urgent and I usually respond quickly and appropriately.

However, it was weekend, every one was busy...busy. In fact most of us were blinded by our busi-ness. Many things were beyond my control, but one thing I could do was to visit the patient and her parents in hospital immediately and to find out more about their needs.

Busy-ness blinded me. I only keep in touch with the parent through phone and arrange to see them the next day.

This morning (Sunday), at about 10:00 am, received a call from the father that she has passed away.

Distraught and helpless parents' request to see a priest, and possible baptism of the dying daughter was not met. I could have gone to the hospital to see the girl alive.... I didn't.

I have failed.

I am grateful to Anna, a fellow legionary in PJ for arranging Fr. Martin Thien and Fr. Thomas Loh to visit and console the parents at the parlour, and offered prayer for the deceased. Thanks to many legionaries' presence for prayer too.

Her remains would be cremated and ashes be brought back to KK by her parents. May her soul through the mercy of God, rest in peace.

We do not own time.


这是个无言的伤痛,遗憾之悲伤。

我刚从八打灵的殡仪馆回来。我去瞻仰的,是一位27岁年轻女孩,没有了生命 、冰冷的遗体。伤痛是这么年轻就离开了这个世界,遗憾的是我不能在他还有生命的时候,见她一面。相差只是昨天和今天而已。

昨天早上(星期六),我接到了亚庇惠琼姐的电话,告诉我一位亚庇教友的女儿,在马大动了脑部手术之后,就昏迷不醒了。无助的父母希望能见一位神父,也看看是否能够给她受洗。

一位病危的人,或病危者的家人提出的要求,通常都是很紧急的,我也通常是义不容辞,尽快给予处理。

周末大家都忙。我也忙,你也忙,大家都忙到“盲”。很多事情是不在我控制范围之内,但我可以做的,本来就是马上到医院和这父母见面,也去探访这位昏迷者,多了解他们的状况及需要。

就是因为忙,忙呀忙到盲了,没有立刻行动,只是以电话联系,等隔天再去看他们吧。

今天(星期天)早上大约十时左右,接到了病者父亲的电话,告诉我他的女儿已经去世了!

父母渴望神职人员的安慰,给予病危女儿降福,遗憾的我没有给予做到。对一位有信仰的人来说,这是一个捶心之痛。我应该立刻到医院看望这位病危,但仍有生命的女孩,我没有做到,这是我的疏忽。

无论如何,我很感激八打灵的军友秀群姐妹,在她联络下,邓英伟神父及罗秀彪神父在今天下午分别到殡仪馆慰问痛失爱女的父母,也给亡者送上祷告和祝福。还有好多到来祈祷的圣母军军友们。

她的遗体将在明天下午二时进行火化,骨灰由父母带回亚庇。愿亡者曾慧文的灵魂安息。

时间不是我们的拥有。


5 comments:

老楞佐 said...

时间是天主的,
人尽自己的能力完成。
因此,你也是尽了能力付出。
有些时候,也是一种恩宠呀。
经过一些经验,未来有这样的事情时,
我们更能付诸实行与完成,也会有意识。

加油~一起努力。
这也是我的「产痛」经验呀~

Simon Phun said...

老楞佐,谢谢你的鼓励。

很多时候,有历史重演的感觉,发现自己又是陷入这种状况。每次都只有再警惕自己,该做的事,就快去做吧。

Time and tide wait for no man...共勉之。

Joyrider said...

是我的同班同學;自1997年初中畢業後就未曾有聯絡。這麼多個日子都不知為何忙……如今,卻似乎很多話想說。

Agnes Chong said...

谢谢你去看他们及安排军友去看他们,我是太迟才通知你,我觉得我是太麻木了,这么长的时间,我都没想到通知你,我也很惭愧。

Simon Phun said...

聊以安慰的是有很多同事,朋友,三位神父及教友都前来安慰慧文的父母,兄弟。亡者也是天主的孩子,必会受到他的怜悯慈爱,带她回到天乡。

我们都为她的逝世感到伤心。愿她的灵魂,安息主怀。

我们大家都尽了自己能力,但很多时候,许多状况不是在我们控制之内。只有遗憾了。

不过,我们不要气馁,继续努力加油,认为该做的事,继续去做吧!