Sunday, October 17, 2010

A sad loss 痛失

We lost a good dear friend.

Yesterday afternoon while receiving Sibu visitors, I received a call from my friend Cheng Boon from Kebun Baru, near Segamat, Johor.

" See Jiao passed away this morning...!"

It came as a shocker! "what happened?"

"She went into coma a month ago and was admitted to Johor Baru General Hospital. She underwent 2 operations and did not recover ..... she died this morning..."

"Why didn't you inform me when she was admitted?.... at least we can see her for the last time!"

"I didn't inform you because not wanting to trouble you traveling all the way to JB..."

I was angry, I was sad, I was frustrated .... we have lost a good friend and never have the chance to say goodbye to her.

Understanding Cheng Boon's good intention, I did not say much ... after all, things done cannot be undone.

My wife and I left the Pastoral Assembly early in order to make the 4 hours round trip journey to attend See Jiao's funeral wake at Kebun Baru, about 25 km from Segamat.

See Jiao, 46, died of a ruptured brain artery and left behind husband and four sons, all of them are working.

May her soul rest in peace in the Western Eternal Land.


我们失去了一位好朋友。

昨天下午,在招待诗巫访客的时候,接到了朋友黄钦文的来电。

“雪娇在今天早上去世了!”

这真是个晴天霹雳的消息。

“怎样发生的?。。”

“在一个月前,她昏迷而被送进新山的中央医院。。。做了两次手术,但都没有醒过来。她在今早去世了”。

“她进院时,为什么没有通知我们?。。。”

“我不要麻烦你们从吉隆坡赶下来(新山)。。。”

我很生气,很无奈,也很伤心。。。我们失去了一位朋友,连向她说再见的机会也没有。

不过明白了钦文的好意,我没有再说什么。事情发生了就发生了,不能倒回头。

今天我们提早离开了牧民大会,赶着下去来回四个小时车程的哥本巴鲁。它离开昔加末大约25公里。

我们在三时前抵达了亡者的家,慰问了钦文及他们的四个儿子。他们都工作了。

雪娇享年46岁。她的脑部血管生了非常复杂了瘤,过去的十多年里,进出医院好多好多次,也受过了很多的痛苦,未能获得治愈。

不过欣慰的,在过去的整十年里,她的病情没有恶化,但瘤还存在。中央医院也没能够继续的医治。这瘤就好像一粒计时炸弹,随时都能破裂。

她勇敢的过着正常的生活,尽量享受生活,工作及旅行,对生活很满足。

一个月前,这颗炸弹爆炸了,医生也还魂乏术,在昏迷中,今早心脏停止跳动,离开了这个世界。

祈愿她灵魂早日进入西天乐土,极乐世界。阿门。

Treasure every moment with your loved ones ..... especially the moment of sunset...
(The beautiful sunset we saw on our way home)
珍惜每个与你亲人相处的时刻 。。。。特别是在夕阳的时候
(回途中看到的美丽夕阳)

1 comment:

Pauline said...

I am broken hearted. I can only cherished the times we had, her smiling face, her simple words and way.