惠银（Lucia）是我的五位云顶乾女儿的其中一位。。。参阅旧帖子。
她来自柔佛州的乌鲁地南，离开加影大约320公里。这就是我与她的父母不是很熟悉的原因吧！
九月十八日，星期三，我到乌鲁地南探访了她的爸爸安东尼黄顺利（Anthony）兄弟，他患上末期癌症。
大约一年半前，医生诊断他患上了第三期的鼻癌。经过更进一步的检验，又发现在脑的后部，有一粒肿瘤。
经过一番思考及咨询之后，他决定不要接受该病必然的电疗/化疗及可能的肿瘤切除手术。
这是个不容易的决定。医生说不接受这些治疗，病情恶化的后果，会在较后一段时期出现。我虽然不是医生或医务人员，但我认为安东尼的决定是正确的。
电疗/化疗可以去除受影响的部位或全身的癌细胞，但其伤害身体程度非常严重。它会影响病人的起居生活素质，还可能加快及加重病人的痛苦，也可能缩短病人的寿命。作为圣母军，我探访这类病人无数，也有某程度上的知识了。
做了决定，安东尼依持信德，家人的爱护，以平常及坦然的心态，喜乐的与家人度过一段平安的日子。其中当然还是会出现一些状况，进出医院及需要服食药物等。
今年初，他的病情有些恶化，极度头疼是令人难以忍受的，但他仍然还可以支撑。
在七月，他及家人还一同到大山脚圣妇亚纳堂朝圣，整个路程超过1300公里 。。。就是全靠一家人坚强信德的推动，得以完成。
过去的两个月，他的病情更进一步恶化，肚子肿胀。除了头疼，还要面对肚子肿胀的痛苦，真的的有点受不了。
他不能坐在椅子上，躺在床上也不是件舒服的事。他得站立，把上身匍匐在一张高椅子上（其实是坐垫叠高），来纾解痛苦。
当我抵达他家时，他热情的欢迎我，脸上带着平安，喜乐的微笑。假如没人告诉我他是癌症病患，癌细胞正在蹂躏着他的身体，我还不相信他有病呢！
他的口腔布满白膜（疱疹），进食也疼痛，但不能妨碍他与我们分享他与癌病挣扎及斗争经历。
他没有埋怨，口里出来的是对天主的赞美及感恩。他感谢上主在这个痛苦的时期，给予力量及宠爱，让他能够背起这个病带来的痛苦及忧伤。
在最痛苦的时候，他会呼唤耶稣圣名来扶助，耶稣就在他身边。
他最常用的短诵是：“耶稣的苦难，求你助我”。他深信天主圣神常常在伴随着他。
信德是他的力量，主耶稣是他的救赎，圣母玛利亚是他的依靠，家人是他的暖锅。
我对他非常的敬佩及赞赏。他是一位勇敢的战士，天主喜悦的儿子。
祈求天主继续的呵护你，给你力量，平安及喜乐。
愿圣母妈妈常常伴随着你，照顾你。
愿家人及朋友们对你的关爱，化成力量，在你最痛苦彷徨的时候，看到前方，得到安详。
加油，安东尼！
阿门。
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| 安东尼与家人欢庆生日。右一，二，三为惠银及丈夫光辉，妈妈。左一为妹妹Lisa Anthony celebrating birthday with family. Right Lucia and husband John |
Pardon me if I tell you I do not know my god-daughter's parents well.
Lucia is one of my Genting God-daughters ... see old posting HERE.
She is from Ulu Tiram, Johor, 320 kms from Kajang. This spoke volume why I do not know her parents well.
On September 18, Wednesday, I was in Ulu Tiram to visit Lucia's father who is suffering from terminal cancer.
About one and a half year ago, he was diagnosed with 3rd stage nose cancer. With more tests followed, a lump was found at the back of his brain.
Through consultation and discernment, he decided not to undergo usual radiotherapy and related treatments, including a possible head surgery.
He enjoyed a period of quality time with the family despite regular hospital visits and admission.
At the beginning of this year, his condition worsened. He experienced constant severe headache and physical discomfort.
He struggling on, and face each day with optimism and thanksgiving.
He even managed to go for a pilgrimage to St. Anne's Church in Bukit Mertajam with his family in July, a journey of more than 1300 kms.
His condition took a worse turn last month. His stomach bloated, acute headache around his ears and nose area and sitting on a chair is a painful act.
He has to prostrate his upper torso on a high chair standing in order to rest and relieve his headache.
When I visited him at his house, he greeted me smiling, looked peaceful and cheerful. You wouldn't know if not told that he is suffering from terminal cancer with nasty cells ravaging his body.
He has difficulty in eating because of ulcers of the mouth. This couldn't stop him from sharing with us his struggle and fight with the disease.
He complained none, but giving praises to God for the strength and Graces given to him to withstand the sufferings and pains brought by the sickness.
During the hours of despair, extreme pain and helplessness, he called out the name of Jesus repeatedly, no shouting and moaning.
His favourite ejaculation (short prayer) under such circumstances is :" The Passion of Jesus, strengthen me !".
My great respect and admiration to a great fighter and faithful son of God.
Pray that Lord Jesus have mercy, grant you peace and strength in this period of pain and suffering. Mother Mary be your side, console and comfort you.
The love of your family and friends be your strength and support, giving you the serenity and hope in time of need.
Lord hear us and have mercy. Amen.
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