You or me - die first 谁先死

I raised the question to my wife after watching the TV serial drama.

In the Hong Kong serial, the husband is asked what was his birthday wish. He said:" I want to be more healthy and my wife dies before me!".

If your husband tells you this on his 55th or 60th birthday, what is your reaction? shock? angry? silly?

This is not the first time my wife and I talk about who dies first. My wife told me before, she wants to die before me...why?

She is not able to face life alone (loss of spouse)!

And I do not want her to suffer loneliness, sadness, helplessness, sickness..... I want to see her lives a peaceful and happy life without fear and worry. I will be at her side... in rich and poor, in good time and bad, happy and sad, to protect and shield...

So, just like the TV serial, I must be healthy to outlive my wife so that I can look after her to ripe old age!

" I die first or you die first?"

" I die first", my wife answered.

May God hear us.


看完了一齣香港连续剧后，我向太太发出了这个问题。

在剧里，丈夫被问到他的生日所许多愿望是什么？丈夫回到说：“我要活的更健康，太太比我死得早”。

假如你的丈夫告诉你这是他的生日许愿，你会怎样反应？惊讶？生气？废话？

这不是第一次我和太太谈起这个问题。太太之前已经告诉了我，她希望比我早去！为什么？

太太不能够面对自己一个人孤单的生活（失去配偶）。

我当然不希望看到他在我离开之后，遭受寂寞、悲伤，无助及疾病的苦痛。我要看到她平安，快乐，无惧怕的过生活。我会在她身边，无论是健康或生病 、富裕或贫穷 、快乐或忧伤 ，护卫及呵护。。。

正如连续剧里的男主角所说，我必须活得更健康，寿命超越我的太太，我才能够照顾她，直到她寿终。

“你要先死还是我先死？”

“我先”。太太回答。

愿主咐听我们。